How To Spot (Not-So-Obvious) Red Flags in Relationships
There’s a well-known saying that we are the collection of the people we surround ourselves with – we put our power into outside rather than going inwards and developing a deep sense of self.
This is all about going inward, listening, digesting, and strengthening those intuitive muscles we all have.
Let go of toxic relationships so that you could make space for better ones.
What’s interesting is that it’s not always easy to recognize bad relationships. This can be because we’re familiar with a trait – perhaps had a parent with similar quality and thought it was normal?
I’ve had relationships with people who say they care about me but their actions are . Gaslighting is the ultimate mindfuck.
Here are three foolproof ways I’ve been able to identify – Whatever age you are in whatever situation you’re in. We all have this set of spidey senses that we can turn to when we question whether it was “in my head”, or a “Me” problem.
Three non-negotiable red flags that question any relationship.
1. Your body tenses up or closed off
Body expressions don’t lie. And sometimes it takes a minute for us to catch on. We live in a world that listens more to our thoughts and less to the signals in our bodies. The truth is, your body knows instantly if someone is good for you if you should do something, or say something, it just takes a second for our minds to catch on.
One of the most profound __ I have is being aware of how my body reacts in different situations.
Am I stiffing up? Do I feel like this person is sucking all energy off of me? Is there an eeriness to this person?
You just want to push them always from you, give them space or get the hell always from them. It’s obvious when it’s a stranger, but what if it’s a parent who’s making you feel that way an old friend or colleague? Somehow because we have a relationship with this person we don’t tend to listen to those thoughts.
2. You’re left feeling Depleted
Whether it’s an encounter at the coffee shop or clerk at checkout – a quick conversation at the parking lot, there’s an emotional exchange that happens. Every interaction you have with a person will leave you feeling better about yourself, or low. You can’t always put your finger on it.
Bring you up, or take you down.
If you’re in a good mood, you – if you’re in a bad mood – you dump your personal garbage on a completely innocent bystander.
More than that, are your meeting with friends leaving you feeling depleted, like you need to recharge? Or do you leave with a bounce in your footstep – feeling seen, heard, fully energized and excited?
Time and energy are the two most valuable. Relationships shouldn’t be transactional but they should be giving you feel good energy.
3. They make you question yourself
We open up to and confide in those who are close to us, people we trust and admire.
I was told once that in a heated conversation “people talk to hear themselves”. There’s something that needs to be figured out and by confiding in someone they feel its’ a safe space to explore their thoughts.
During this state of vulnerability, a good friend will encourage you to find the answer within yourself. helps you uncover and clarify their thoughts. They help them find their truth in a situation.
A toxic friendship on the other hand won’t be able to empathize with you. Rather they’ll look at your and give a strong statement or opinion.
This might be their truth, but it’s always not your truth. If a piece of advice doesn’t stick – doesn’t feel right or resonate with you – trust that. It’s signaling back to you whether you’re
One thing is to give advice and counsel – the other is to jump to a conclusion, impose your beliefs and make them question themselves.
To question that voice inside of you. This is a trait that’s often found with narcissistic people – opinionated ones who tend to think highly of themselves.
The most harmful thing I believe someone can do to you is to take away your power. Make you second guess yourself. It’s twisted and.
3. Don’t Reciprocate the love
Body expressions don’t lie. And sometimes it takes a minute for us to catch on. Am I stiffing up? Do I feel like I want to close off? Do I feel like they’re sucking the energy off of me?
‘’I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’’ – Maya Angelou
3. It’s not equal
I’m not talking about Keeping Tabs – I’m talking about
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